Let your Yes be Yes.
Let your yes be yes and your no be no.
Wow these little phrases hit me a couple of ways this week. So let's break this down and keep it simple.
1. I want my yes to be yes. I don't want to over commit and be so quick to say yes, that my yes is a ok/frazzled/frantic/ half-***/ kind of yes. Ok y'all that know me, know I don't curse, but you get the idea.
2. I want my no to be no. I don't want to be wishy washy, but confident. I want to say no to something even if it doesn't make everyone happy. I don't want to make promises that I can't keep or give my best, so I am going to have to say no even if it feels icky for a moment or so.
So this one gets me all the time...girl's nights...Yes we ALL need a mom's night out! BUT...here is my problem. With each "group" having nights, there can be weeks, when there are multiple mom's nights out in one week. So this is where I have to say no, and believe it or not I have actually started doing this! L I B E R A T I N G (for a people pleaser like me).
This is sad, but I finally learned this lesson this year! Here is how it finally hit home..so a mom, I respect and admire, responded on an evite that she couldn't attend the mom's night because her son had a big test the next day. Now, old me would have tried to force feed studying, dinner, etc. so I could rush out the door to make the mom's night. You know find a way to make it ALL happen.
But hello! Stress! Frantic crazy just brings out the worst side of me, I mean like bad mother, crazy wife, run for the hills kind of Hill... and then all to go eat dinner with some friends, worth it? Not so much! And to be honest, when I get crazy I am leaving my little people with an example I don't really want teach, and the yuckiest version of me.
So to be clear, making it all happen just doesn't seem to suite me well, and with that, there might be a few more no's, so I can have some better yes's.